Your amygdala, the little almond shaped area in your brain responsible for triggering your emotional reactions among other things is far from forgetful, and it loves the sound of sirens in the night. Feeling the effects of cortisol each time you remember the problem convinces you that you should keep ranting; surely the offenders will show up any minute now to admit they were wrong and you were right!
The next stage is to support this ingrained insane behavior, by contriving elaborate reasons to justify our ranting, worrying, panic and the resulting stress. Like the parent who stares at her child kicking and screaming on the floor, so does life observe us, grown children, throwing tantrums because some aspect of life did not go as we expected—as if that will change anything! Everyone has his or her own brew of defensive reactions, from worrying, yelling, and crying to overworking, drinking, sleeping, and complaining to anyone who will listen. I hope you realize these behaviors/tantrums are full of empty promises and examine these hardwired misguided reactions more objectively. Once you see this lie exposed—that getting upset will somehow help you—your behavior will begin to change. Where exactly in the framework of your brain is this choice to react differently? Well your powerful subconscious always has a host of options available, but the trick is getting that info up to your thinking, conscious brain to make use of it.
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